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Anonymous asked:

I tend to think it's easier to explain this way: an asexual deciding to have sex with any individual, is kind of like a homosexual man deciding to have sex with a woman; it's entirely possible. However, the fact remains he's still sexually attracted to men. An ace person can decide to have sex, but all that means in the end, is that they have sexual organs capable of arousal.

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Anonymous asked:

Regarding that question from that anon asking about sexual activity for asexuals, don't you think it's possible for it to be about the feeling it gives you rather than attraction towards the person it's with. Just like masturbation, it feels good; but you don't have to be thinking about someone sexually in order to do it. So can't sex be the same way but like masturbating with someone? I'm just speaking hypothetically. i've never actually had sex (have no interesting in it).

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Anonymous asked:

Hey, so I think I understand the meaning of the term "squish" in ace slang, but I also keep hearing the word "squash", usually to refer to the same thing. I think. Any idea if there's a difference between these terms? Or are they the same thing?

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I’ve never seen/heard the phrase “squash” used, although “zucchini” is somewhat common. I’m not quite sure if there’s a difference between “squish” and “squash”, considering I have yet to come across the latter.

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Anonymous asked:

Generally question, sorry if this is rude, but I'm confused. Isn't asexualtiy literally defined as not being sexually attracted to anyone/thing? How can you be sexually involved with someone and still be asexual, when that goes completely against what the word means? (Again, really sorry if that sounded rude I'm just curious is all)

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First off, I find it rather difficult to answer your question because sexual activity doesn’t go against the definition of asexuality, which is solely the lack of sexual attraction, and doesn’t go against sexual activity. Someone can be sexually involved with another without feeling attraction. It’s also possible to feel arousal without attraction (which, to be honest, is a contributing factor in how it’s totally possible for someone to be sexually active/involved without feeling sexual attraction.) As I stated before, this is rather difficult to explain, so I’m very sorry if this is an inadequate explanation. If so, don’t hesitate to let me know, and I’ll do my best to further elaborate/explain/clarify.

“So do you masturbate?”
— Rude fucking people to asexuals. (via raspectre-the-brave)

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Anonymous asked:

Do you really have to have a romantic orientation? Like, I'm sure I'm asexual, but sometimes I thing I'm aromantic, and sometimes I think I'm not. And if I'm not, I have no idea whether I'm hetero-, homo-, bi-, pan-, or anything else. I really can't figure it out. I knew I was ace because I don't experience sexual attraction and I have no interest in sex, but I would like romance in the abstract sense, I just can't figure out how I feel about it now. Does this often happen to aces?

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anagnori:

Yeah, in fact it’s really common! I wrote up an essay on this, in which I ran some numbers and found a pretty big chunk of the online asexual community may not find “romantic orientation” the best way of describing their romantic identity or experiences. You’re in good company, anon.

It may be helpful to remember that sexual orientation and romantic orientation are just models that we use to categorize people’s experiences. They are social constructs, not objective elements of reality. They’re useful constructs, and being constructed doesn’t make people’s identities less important or valid, but the models can’t capture the full scope and complexity of human emotion. If a model like romantic orientation doesn’t work for you or help you understand your experiences, then feel free to ignore it. (As long as you don’t invalidate anyone else’s identity that uses the model, you’re good.)

There are even labels out there for people who don’t have romantic orientations, or who find the concept confusing or inapplicable to them. I’ve seen WTFromantic, ???romantic and quoiromantic so far. You can also invent your own label for your experiences if you like.

asexualthings:

Original files to download and print (paper size is A5):
Pamphlet 1: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg
Pamphlet 2:
Front: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg
Back: http://i.imgur.com/jOYFzwI.jpg
asexualthings:

Original files to download and print (paper size is A5):
Pamphlet 1: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg
Pamphlet 2:
Front: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg
Back: http://i.imgur.com/jOYFzwI.jpg
asexualthings:

Original files to download and print (paper size is A5):
Pamphlet 1: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg
Pamphlet 2:
Front: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg
Back: http://i.imgur.com/jOYFzwI.jpg

asexualthings:

Original files to download and print (paper size is A5):

Pamphlet 1: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg

Pamphlet 2:

Front: http://i.imgur.com/ShDnALq.jpg

Back: http://i.imgur.com/jOYFzwI.jpg

kittenmogu:

Found this sexuality radar chart in the AVEN forums here (credit to Hallucigenia)! I’ve given up on trying to label my sexuality for a long time, being that sexuality is a very complex concept and I didn’t find any existing labels useful or concise enough. I feel like this chart is an interesting way to visualize patterns and categorize different aspects of sexuality.
There’s two versions of the chart.

Fantasy - thinking of people in a sexual way, whether or not you have any desire whatsoever to act on those thoughts.Primary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good.Secondary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual to express love or to enjoy the other person’s sexual pleasure.Primary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone in particular, “falling in love”.Secondary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship in general, being open to options should someone pursue you romantically.Aesthetic - wanting to feast your eyes on someone because they’re pretty.Platonic - wanting to communicate, share ideas, be friends. You don’t have to experience platonic attraction to enjoy having friends; in this context it measures a directed desire to get to know a particular person.Physical - wanting to touch, hug, cuddle and so on.

The second chart I find to be too complicated for my needs but it does distinguish between desire and attraction, which some may find useful.

Primary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on information you get instantly, like their looks or smell.Secondary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on the relationship you have with them.Primary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good to you (physically or emotionally).Secondary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because of your partner’s pleasure, or for some other motivation such as conceiving a child. 

It’s pretty easy to fill out in Paint and I thought I’d share uwu
kittenmogu:

Found this sexuality radar chart in the AVEN forums here (credit to Hallucigenia)! I’ve given up on trying to label my sexuality for a long time, being that sexuality is a very complex concept and I didn’t find any existing labels useful or concise enough. I feel like this chart is an interesting way to visualize patterns and categorize different aspects of sexuality.
There’s two versions of the chart.

Fantasy - thinking of people in a sexual way, whether or not you have any desire whatsoever to act on those thoughts.Primary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good.Secondary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual to express love or to enjoy the other person’s sexual pleasure.Primary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone in particular, “falling in love”.Secondary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship in general, being open to options should someone pursue you romantically.Aesthetic - wanting to feast your eyes on someone because they’re pretty.Platonic - wanting to communicate, share ideas, be friends. You don’t have to experience platonic attraction to enjoy having friends; in this context it measures a directed desire to get to know a particular person.Physical - wanting to touch, hug, cuddle and so on.

The second chart I find to be too complicated for my needs but it does distinguish between desire and attraction, which some may find useful.

Primary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on information you get instantly, like their looks or smell.Secondary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on the relationship you have with them.Primary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good to you (physically or emotionally).Secondary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because of your partner’s pleasure, or for some other motivation such as conceiving a child. 

It’s pretty easy to fill out in Paint and I thought I’d share uwu
kittenmogu:

Found this sexuality radar chart in the AVEN forums here (credit to Hallucigenia)! I’ve given up on trying to label my sexuality for a long time, being that sexuality is a very complex concept and I didn’t find any existing labels useful or concise enough. I feel like this chart is an interesting way to visualize patterns and categorize different aspects of sexuality.
There’s two versions of the chart.

Fantasy - thinking of people in a sexual way, whether or not you have any desire whatsoever to act on those thoughts.Primary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good.Secondary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual to express love or to enjoy the other person’s sexual pleasure.Primary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone in particular, “falling in love”.Secondary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship in general, being open to options should someone pursue you romantically.Aesthetic - wanting to feast your eyes on someone because they’re pretty.Platonic - wanting to communicate, share ideas, be friends. You don’t have to experience platonic attraction to enjoy having friends; in this context it measures a directed desire to get to know a particular person.Physical - wanting to touch, hug, cuddle and so on.

The second chart I find to be too complicated for my needs but it does distinguish between desire and attraction, which some may find useful.

Primary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on information you get instantly, like their looks or smell.Secondary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on the relationship you have with them.Primary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good to you (physically or emotionally).Secondary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because of your partner’s pleasure, or for some other motivation such as conceiving a child. 

It’s pretty easy to fill out in Paint and I thought I’d share uwu

kittenmogu:

Found this sexuality radar chart in the AVEN forums here (credit to Hallucigenia)! I’ve given up on trying to label my sexuality for a long time, being that sexuality is a very complex concept and I didn’t find any existing labels useful or concise enough. I feel like this chart is an interesting way to visualize patterns and categorize different aspects of sexuality.

There’s two versions of the chart.

Fantasy - thinking of people in a sexual way, whether or not you have any desire whatsoever to act on those thoughts.
Primary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good.
Secondary Sexual - wanting to do something sexual to express love or to enjoy the other person’s sexual pleasure.
Primary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship with someone in particular, “falling in love”.
Secondary Romantic - wanting to be in a romantic relationship in general, being open to options should someone pursue you romantically.
Aesthetic - wanting to feast your eyes on someone because they’re pretty.
Platonic - wanting to communicate, share ideas, be friends. You don’t have to experience platonic attraction to enjoy having friends; in this context it measures a directed desire to get to know a particular person.
Physical - wanting to touch, hug, cuddle and so on.

The second chart I find to be too complicated for my needs but it does distinguish between desire and attraction, which some may find useful.

Primary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on information you get instantly, like their looks or smell.
Secondary Sexual Attraction: Sexual attraction to someone based on the relationship you have with them.
Primary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because it’ll feel good to you (physically or emotionally).
Secondary Sexual Desire: Wanting to do something sexual because of your partner’s pleasure, or for some other motivation such as conceiving a child. 

It’s pretty easy to fill out in Paint and I thought I’d share uwu

thefantastickatinator:

So, I wanted to write a character who was asexual for one of my stories. I don’t know very much about asexuality so I was hoping that if you knew a little bit about it, you could help me out. Keep in mind that my knowledge is very limited on the subject and that I am not trying to be offensive with my questions. I am a little ignorant on the subject and I don’t want to write a character that is inaccurate or offensive to people who are asexual. Here are a few questions:

Is sex gross to asexual people or is it more like “that’s just not my thing”?

Do asexual people want romantic relationships or do they also not want anything in that area?

How do asexual people feel about things that are not quite sex (such as kissing, cuddling, etc)?

Is there anything else you can tell me about people who are asexual?

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Anonymous asked:

What is the meaning of the colour of the Asexual flag? ò-ò

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anagnori:

I’ve seen two different explanations of what the colors stand for:

  1. Black = asexuality, Gray = gray-asexuality and demisexuality, White = asexual allies and partners, Purple = community (source).
  2. Black, Gray, White = the whole asexual spectrum (compare the AVEN triangle), Purple = community.

(I personally prefer the second one.)