I’ve been having trouble defining my sexuality and the few times i had sex to see if it would eventually pass,i felt absolutley nothing,by nothing i meant un enjoyable,and not to mention 0% emotionaly connected.I felt sort of grossed out,i think i feel more turned on about violence than i do about sex.what are the chances it could just be some phase?
Well for just now let me explain the three types of attraction:
Sexual: You see someone and you are attracted to them.
Romantic: You crush on someone/like someone/wish to date them
Aesthetic: You find something beautiful, or can admire their beauty on a level other than sexual or romantic.
The physical act of sex is A PHYSICAL ACT.
If you feel no sexual attraction, usually that makes you asexual.
No romantic attraction? Aromantic.
(No aestetic doesn’t have a name I don’t think…)
Regardless of if what you think you are, no sexuality makes you any less human; there are studies, organizations, blogs based on this stuff.
Now to your real question:
Sexuality is fluid, that does not mean what you are feeling is INCORRECT or a PHASE in any way. It could change, but accepting yourself for who you are is more important. Peek through the resource page and I wish you a good journey.