They accept “everybody within the LGBT community and its allies” to have meetings there and I will TAKE THAT. Thank you. Yes. You are perfect for bus access and don’t have ridiculously expensive parking fines for impossible to navigate parking. You are my new favorite people. NOW TO FIND A DATE/TIME OF MONTH/TIME THAT WORKS.
KC area aces, I know I got a few of you following me, maybe some folks I know you guys got school and all. Any preferences?
I keep confusing the phrases “Asexual Agenda” and “Avengers, Assemble!”
I’m sure there’s a reason for this, and I’m reiterating calling dibs on a costume that doesn’t flaunt my breasts, in anticipation of the day we all become asexy, asexy superheroes.
In the meantime, Asexual Agenda is a new 201 blog about asexuality, and I just put my asexuality and sexism series up there, so you should check it out.
/shameless plug
I just had a talk with dad revealing my asexuality. And he was absolutely accepting, cool and seem interested learning about my personal experience and point of view.
what-if-jesus-were-a-timelord:
She was like
“So…you’re Sheldon?”
and I was like
“YES.”
I mean. I am so lucky to have amazingly awesome accepting friends.
Ones who don’t tell me that I don’t exist. Well. I had one friend who was like “Man, you’re missing out! Sex is great!” Which makes me angry and I’m not really friends with her anymore but still.
EVERYONE ELSE HAS BEEN AWESOMELY AWESOME ABOUT IT.
JUST HUGS FOR EVERYONE.
Just
I think the asexual assumption comes from the fact that I don’t think in a sexual way, and so those types of thoughts are too abstract for me to be able to apply to anyone else through my theory of mind (the ability to attribute mental states to others). I don’t experience it, and so I don’t really understand it. I don’t know what it’s like to think in a sexual way, and it’s something that seems quite different from other ways of thinking, making it hard to even imagine what it’s like.
(via ace-muslim)
I’ve seen a lot of posts like this before from outlawroad and other people, so just to put this out to the universe. These are the qualities of my ideal partner.
THE ESSENTIALS
-They have to care about animals, to the extent that they are at least vegetarian and willing to try being vegan
-They think seriously about the moral implications of things
-They must be respectful of multiple belief systems, including Christianity and Mormonism because that is where I come from as well as all my family. I don’t care what religion they’re from otherwise as long as they do not judge me for my beliefs, and we can agree that God is manifest in all religions and we both have valid ways of seeking truth - that we can SHARE with one another! Also willing to discuss the problems with different religious traditions, including my own (I am at that place in my life).
-Warmth. I need someone who will be warm to me. I would like someone who will at least hold me in a long hug when I’m sad. Someone who will not be embarrassed to give me verbal affection at the very least, even if they’re uncomfortable with cuddling a lot or whatever. Must not get frustrated with having to affirm that they care about me repeatedly, because I’m stupid and need that kind of thing.
-Must not have any expectations of sex to ever be part of the relationship.
-Must want to build a solid sense of home and togetherness with me, actively, and want to share our respective families with each other and seek a sense of belonging with them
-Must not judge me for my dorky/nerdy/whatever tendencies and interests
-Has a deep sense of the mystical aspect of life and spirituality which we can talk about together - is open and drawn to the unexplainable while still capable of rational discussions
-Is patient with emotional weakness and vulnerability, will sit with me when I need company, will encourage me when I’m depressed, will be strong enough to deal with my frustrating bouts of insecurity without getting so worn out that I feel merely tolerated
-Does not care how I look and will not pressure me to be a certain way (except encouraging me to do the right thing and take care of myself and others)
-Is not sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, Islamophobic, or otherwise hateful in any way.
-Cherishes me.
-Understands that I also have other relationships that are important to me on deep levels - respects that and is eager to support and become a part of those relationships (friends with my friends, friends with my family, etc)
-Has good hygiene
-Does not swear much or tell jokes in bad taste
NOT SO IMPORTANT BUT WOULD STILL BE NICE
-Is into similar interests: writing, science fiction, cultural studies, specific anime and movies and books, reading, music, religion, art
-Can carry a tune or play an instrument
-Is willing to cook and clean with me
-Is not a slob but not a true neat freak either, just knows how to take decent care of stuff
-Can be male or female, doesn’t matter, though I prefer more androgynous either way
-isn’t into tons of material possessions, loves living simply
-Can get hyper and silly
-Might want to adopt kids someday
-likes giving and receiving hugs
Aaand that’s all I can think of for now. So here you go Universe… it’s a tall order and I don’t expect it to ever be filled but it’s good to put those things out there anyway.
If anyone were to fit this and message me, I guess I would add one more thing
-Is willing to take things slow and be friends for a long time, and won’t be disappointed if we decide to stay just friends, but won’t mind if it develops into something more either (as long as it’s asexual).
Well there’s another thing checked off my list of things to write… next up is a new letter to my parents, one I might actually be able to send… seems unimagineable xP but I guess I should try anyway.
We all know that the common reaction to asexuality is to deny its existence, but that isn’t always the case. Quite recently I met a number of people, all of whom have heard of asexuality and accepted it without question. It’s so wonderful not having to explain myself. In fact, one of those individuals is asexual. They’re so understanding and not ignorant in the least. I can’t describe how amazing it is to know that I can be myself without holding anything back.
I just wanted to let all of you know that there are people in the world who are assholes, but there are even more people who are accepting and understanding.
Never lose hope.
is wrong and has no understanding of the way asexuality intersects with other marginalized statuses.
Voltafiish wrote a brilliant post (which I reblogged earlier) about the exclusion of asexual POC from media representations of asexual people. Voltafiish and others report that the experience…
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